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Can You Be In Love With Someone You've Hardly Ever Spoken To?

I met this boy when I was 9 years old at a church soccer competition. I had an instant crush on him, and had a little girl crush on him but was too shy to talk to him.
The next year when I was 10, we had new teams for my church's soccer league and he was on my team. I was so excited. We talked a bit, but I was still really shy and unable to have a good conversation. That was my worst year of soccer ever, cause I was so unable to concentrate from my puppy love-infatuation with him.
For a while after that I hardly saw him, except for the times when he and his family would come to church.
When I was 11 I moved up to my church youth group and always paid more attention to him than the youth pastor.
When I was 12 I went to church camp and my best friend and I got Into a huge fight over him cause we discovered we liked the same boy. That friendship ended.
When I was 13, I went to church camp once again and he came up to me and we had our first conversation where I was not holding back from shyness. It was silly perhaps, hell, it was about imaginary friends, but at the time that was a huge deal for me.
When I was 14, I made a huge decision in my life to stop going to church because I really didn't believe in what was being taught. So, because of that decision I never saw him.
A couple years later I went to one of the youth groups Christmas party's and I saw him. I had forgotten how much I had really felt for him. It was like a really fast car crash, all the feelings just hit me. The thing was I didn't have the courage to talk to him after such a long time of not seeing him.
I haven't seen him since than, but last night I had a dream with him in it, and I WAS in love with him, at least in my dream and it was the most beautiful feeling I have ever felt. All day today I have thought about him, and even cried. I think I am in love with him and I don't know what to do.

Public Comments

1. No, b/c you don't really know him.

2. I know it seems crazy, but it's actually a lot easier to love someone from far away. It's safe. Since you've never talked or really spent time with this boy, he seems perfect, and can be anything you want him to be. Try actively spending some time with him, then you can see if you really love him. But don't tell him you love him for a while, get to know him completely first. You might realize he's nothing like who you thought he was, but you could also realize he was everything--and more. Good luck! :)