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Urgent help needed: Does she like me?

I have been close friends with a girl for about 2 months now. We talk all the time, tell each other heaps of secrets and have an incredibly perfect time every time we meet. When I am with her or talking to her over the phone, I have a strong feeling that she likes me, but I keep having other thoughts..

She went on a youth group camp last weekend where she hung out with many different guys from her elementary school. I read a message she had sent to a friend over facebook, which included lines like "omg, you will never guess who was there!!! ;)" which worried me a bit. She has also told me about how hot/nice a few of the guys there were.

So, I still haven't seen her since this camp (it was only last weekend), and I called her last night to chat. We got along normally for the majority of the 3-hour phone call, but at times it seemed as though she wasn't interested or was bored. Later on in the phone call, she told me she couldn't come to my soccer game on saturday (which we had organised long ago) because she needed to help set up for a friend's party at midday, which is fair enough. She then went on to say how I shouldn't come to her game on sunday either (which had been organised long ago too), because we had apparently made a deal that if she didn't come to mine, I wouldn't go to hers (which I really don't remember). This game of hers is a big rival game, which a large crowd of teenagers in our area are going to and I had promised I would be there for it, so I'm really confused..

Anyway, a few of her friends have been telling me to ask her out, and so have my friends. We have been over to each others house a few times and even went to a huge carnival last week which was real quality time together, so we're pretty tight. I'm just a little confused because of those few side-stories... what do you think? Am I over-reacting?

Public Comments

1. She likes you, ask her out on a date and make it clear that it is a date.

2. well first if u talked for 3 hours then naturally someone is gonna show signs of boredom. i ain't never talked that long....not even to my gf.

for the rest i think u might be overreacting. ask her out and see how that goes. u should have your answer then.

3. ask her out dude... if u think too much u will mess it up more...!!!

all d best! :)

4. Dude, I think you are over reacting. Ask her out before some other guy does. You have nothing to lose. If she says no you are in the same boat as you're in now, but at least you will know how she feels. If you are in elementary school you will have a lot more girlfriends in the future anyway. I know it's probably hard for you to imagine that at your age, but it's true. Go for it! Good luck!

5. Well, I have an inkling she DID like you, and possibly still does, but maybe more of a brother? Or maybe she still does but wants to hide something from you to protect your feelings. Every girl has a male friend that she fancies or he fancies her, but it's never meant to be. It's kind of like working out relationships and finding out what works and what doesn't. Maybe you could ask her to the cinema or ice rink and see how it naturally flows, see if she touches you or touches her hair a lot. Watch her body language; if she leans in to talk to you and it's not too loud surroundings, she probably does like you. If she crosses her arms and/or her legs around you, it means she probably doesn't like you. See how the atmosphere between you is. If she asks if so and so can come too, she probably does just see you as a friend.

On the whole though, I think you should leave it for her to contact you, feelings often get in the way in a boy/girl friendship!!! Good luck

6. Well kiddo you are bordering the girlfriend and just friend with this girl. If its not too late and her friends are telling you to ask her out it is for a reason. Maybe she mentioned she saw other guys to see if you would get jealous. When I was younger I had many similiar situations I would like a girl but make a close friend with them thinking it would turn into something else but never did. After time all the girls said the same thing they just wanted to be friends. If your too shy to ask her you might lose out my friend if you really like her go ahead and go for it before its too late. I know easier said than done. If you cant tell her to her face get a nice card and write your heart out to her and give it to her or put it somewere were you definately know she will get it. Good Luck Kiddo